Words of Affirmation
Words of love—I love you. Words of encouragement, love notes, etc.
Words of honor—My wife is really great at ___ (given both publicly and privately)
Words of thanks—Thank you (given both publicly and privately)
Time of focusing on your loved one.
Listening, not giving advice—How was your day? Then, listen, put down whatever else is happening, and concentrate on her.
Doing things together—Just her and you.
Being close physically.
Physical affection that is personal.
Acts of Service
Helping your loved by doing some of her chores.
Housework, cooking a meal, washing dishes, picking up after yourself.
Running errands for her.
Putting gas in her car.
Taking care of the kids including diaper changes.
Giving something special and personal
Making something for her.
Surprising her by buying something special, that she wants and would enjoy.
Always remember kindness.
Listen, don’t argue.
Have a life focus that you work towards together. (Not money or financial, but spiritual goals, family goals, service goals).
1 Corinthians 13:2-8a—If I have prophecy and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains but don’t have love, I am nothing. If I give all my possessions to feed the poor, and if I give up my body to be burned, but don’t have love, it doesn’t profit me. Love is very patient and kind; love is not envious; love doesn’t brag about itself, is not haughty, Doesn’t behave improperly, is not self-seeking. Love isn’t easily aggravated. Doesn’t keep a list of wrongs. Doesn’t rejoice in injustice, but rejoices with the truth. Bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, calmly endures all things. Love never falls away.
The Greek word for “falls away” has the idea of lost, falls from what it was, cast off (as in a ship wreck), etc.
Actions speak louder than words!
How are we showing love to our spouse and loved ones?
The 5 Love Languages is a book based on counseling and research by Gary Chapman.